Sun Square Moon : Pater/Mater conflicts

The Sun Square Moon aspect occurs when the Sun is found at a 90 degree angle to the Moon in an individual's natal chart. In general, this aspect reflects emotional issues and a strong inner restlessness which acts as a driving force. Individuals with this difficult natal aspect will find that what they want and what they need are constantly at odds with each other. There is a tendency to attract or be attracted to challenging or impossible situations as an unconscious attempt to recreate the tension of early childhood, causing the individual to effectively become his/her own worst enemy.

For whatever reason, individuals born with this aspect in their natal chart didn't feel needed or accepted as children. The clash between their parents or role models, if there ever were any, made them feel as if their very being was unacceptable. As a result, the native had to learn to find fulfillment and balance without much support or guidance from their primary teachers. The parents did not have simply opposite personalities, as is the case with Sun opposition Moon. It is more likely that their relationship was a continual struggle which they may or may not have known their child was aware of. This tension existed as a constant, underlying current within the domestic atmosphere which affected the native deeply. Sun square Moon individuals internalized the tension they were born into and always feel out of place as a result. Their inner dynamics have been distorted, resulting in personal frustration and difficulties in joining their will and feelings to co-operation.

The ongoing struggle for these individuals is between their need for nurture and their need for independence. When they get the autonomy that they crave, they feel unsupported by others. When they receive the support they crave, they feel smothered. This internal clash is most apparent in the relationships they form: confrontations and challenges are frequent, not just with romantic partners, but also on the job, with friends, and so forth. However, these natives often have a lot of drive and moxie. They are resilient creatures who have faced conflict and survived it many times, giving them an inner strength that attracts many. They will thusly be given many opportunities to learn and work through these issues, though they may leave a trail of heartbreak (theirs and others') behind them.

A stressful Sun-Moon aspect seems to imprint the native with the (often unconscious) expectation that all relationships (be it romantic, friendly, or job related) will eventually fail and end. Though the desire to form lasting, beneficial connections with others is very strong, the native will be acutely aware of conflicts in partnership, taking them to heart. These powerful, contradictory emotions are so overwhelming to the native that she will constantly battle to control their release. The accumulating pressure inevitably bursts from time to time, and the native will periodically display spontaneous argumentative, provocative and belligerent tendencies as a result.

The upside of this natal conflict is found in the fact that these individuals are more than willing to work out problems in a relationship due to their acute awareness and sensitivity to them. They will want to deal with issues quickly, frankly and thoroughly in order to make them "go away." However, if they face a partner who denies that problems exist in the first place they easily become frustrated and intolerable. This is because learning and growing through relationships is a basic urge for these individuals - so basic that it becomes a need. These natives learn the most about themselves through their relationships, and need partners who are willing to be a part of that process. This aspect also tends to add a protective and valiantly caring side to the personality. The person will be remarkably passionate about the people they love. They tend to be strongly loyal to their roots and, perhaps ironically, usually make excellent parents.

Circumstances will eventually force the native to either overcome their own ego, aligning themselves with their own true potential or fall into a state of self pity, resentment and bitterness. When committed and aligned, the isolated and lonely child has the option of using the power of the square to become what she truly wants to be. Which she chooses is entirely dependent on the path she chooses.