Lilith in 7th House Sagittarius; Femme Fatale on The Descendant

"But I will not submit to you and be put beneath you,
Like a serving maid.
He conquers me, he who dares to pay my price.
I ask too much, you say? Yet I give all.

Watch out, you man, I warn you.
When I leave, you will fall asleep
And your rib will be taken out for your mate.
You banish me, but you will be cast out from the garden
And struggle to be reborn.
I will return to remind you of what you really want.
How you feel broken with a mate who is part of you,
Like a crutch."
- author unknown

The Dark Moon Lilith is the counterpart of Luna, the visible moon. Both are feminine energies which are associated with emotion and femininity, but with opposite aims. While Luna receives her fulfillment through nurturing and caring for others, Lilith is wholly self fulfilled and self defined. She lives in the shadow of our more accepted, open and nurturing emotional nature, governing the darkest, most secretive emotions we carry- shame, guilt, indignance, hatred, bitterness and jealousy. Where Luna is giving of herself, Lilith is the femme fatale- seeking to take pleasure for herself whenever needed.

Together, Lilith and Luna represent the complex polarity of femininity. Where Luna is soft, kind and nurturing, Lilith is strong, a disciplinarian, and will eagerly battle anyone who threatens the well-being of her self or her loved ones.

Lilith's placement in the chart is especially important to women, as it represents how, why, and when she expresses this harder side of her femininity. A woman with strong Lilith influence (Lilith is in my 7th house, on my Descendant, conjunct my natal Neptune and trine my natal Sun & Mercury) will find that her outward femininity is more Lilith than Luna in spite of herself. In a man's chart Lilith's placement shows the issues he may have with the women in his life. A man's Black Moon represents, in the same way the mythological Lilith did to Adam, the type of woman he fears most, yet needs to feel truly whole.

When a woman's Lilith is found in Sagittarius a deeply rooted, fierce independence appears which permeates into the native's every day life. These individuals, as a result, will have very few truly close, personal commitments to others. They are driven by both an insatiable wanderlust and a spine tingling fear of any kind of dependence. As a result of this, there will be great instability in the area of personal, intimate relationships, but a greater power than most in the social-universal areas of human existence. These women are The Feminine's generals. At their very core they are devoid of the need for security and protection that some women have, and are therefore next to impossible to possess in traditional ways.

Lilith in Sagittarius has an independence fetish, to put it mildly. How powerful she feels is directly parallel with the amount of autonomy she currently holds, and this has a strong influence on her sexuality. A "powerless" Lilith in Sag native will hold her sexuality closely to herself, and any partner who attempts to control her will soon find him/herself replaced. There is no middle ground for Lilith in Sagittarius where her personal power is concerned. If you can accept and embrace her free spirit, she stays. If you try to suffocate it, she goes.

It follows that the choice of a partner is most often one with qualities of independence that would guarantee Lilith in Sag's ability to come and go as she pleases. This in no way implies a lack of devotion, but simply an unusually strong restlessness which the native is (sometimes painfully) aware must be obeyed. Intimate relationships will be spirited, probing and exciting until the native begins to feel there is no more room for personal growth. When Lilith in Sag feels the growth potential dwindling in her partnership, it will begin to feel like a fence around her that she will struggle to resist jumping- sometimes in contrast to her deeper understanding of the relationship itself.

When a woman's Sag Lilith is found in the 7th house (the house of partnership), she is even further torn between commitment and independence. The general energy of Lilith desires to reject intimate commitment, while the 7th house concerns itself solely with it's acceptance. Instead of rejecting it outright, this placement instead attempts to express the power of her autonomy THROUGH her partnerships, which is difficult to do realistically. Although she appears at times unshakable, a perceptive few may notice a weariness behind this one's eyes. This weariness is caused by enduring the chaos of her own constantly changing life, as well as a dangerously deep, suppressed anxiety concerning partnerships that she has abandoned due to her restlessness. 7th house Sag Lilith privately wonders, "What kind of life would I be living right now if I had stayed?" She protects her independence fiercely while simultaneously desiring to be partnered, at times all too aware of the beauty of the fish she's thrown back to the sea.

When Lilith is conjunct the descendant, natives will find themselves unreasonably attracted to dark, secretive and rebellious types, regardless of the trouble they cause. She draws partners to her who desire relationships with strongly Lilithian women- women who are confident, authoritarian, and fiercely autonomous. This is because natives are driven to use the arena of partnership to explore Lilith's power, and only a mate who can keep up with her, as her equal, will do if this is to take place. At the heart of her, Lilith on the Descendant wishes to find a partner who will somehow, through his/her very being, cause her to desire deep, willing intimate surrender. This is a complex dance, however, when the Descendant Lilith falls on is in Sagittarius, as the native will insist that it happen naturally and without prompting. Any partner attempting to force this surrender, or coax her to it in any deliberate way, will soon find him/herself alone.